Continuing our Blogger Series as a part of our Health Over Stigma campaign unmarried women from all around India are sharing their stories/experiences related to the stigma we face in regards to our body, sexual health & desires. It is only through starting an open and safe dialogue can we end the stigma and normalize these conversations. Read more about our Week of Action here.
This happened a year back. My friend was seeing this guy who was a pilot and was 23. It got physical quite soon. They would have sex every weekend at the guy’s place because he lived alone. One day, as it happened, she got pregnant and was super nervous. She called me up and we decided to go to the gynae. This particular one happened to be very reputed and was in Gurgaon far from the place where she herself lived (in Delhi). She didn’t wanna come across anyone she knew. When we told him what we wanted, he was totally taken aback. He asked our age proof so we gave him our IDs. I didn’t and still don’t understand why he refused to treat her even though she was an adult (19 in fact). He just gave another Doctor’s number and gave a stupid excuse that he already has a lot of appointments. It wasn’t true because we asked his assistant before hand if he could conduct a suction abortion and she said that he was free. It appals me how someone would deny us treatment just because of their own bias. It’s their duty which they need to fulfil, and our right to demand help if so we seek.