Continuing our Blogger Series as a part of our Health Over Stigma campaign women from all around India are sharing their stories/experiences related to the stigma we face in regards to our body, sexual health & desires. It is only through starting an open and safe dialogue can we end the stigma and normalize these conversations. Read more about our Week of Action here.
So this happened in one of the colleges of Delhi university about a month ago. What really happened did put a black mark on an all girls institution like this. There was a case of molestation that took place, the victim was a first year student had just entered college. She belonged to a humble background and was having money issues at home. Therefore she used to come to college everyday with this aged man who worked with the college bank. He was in his early fifties, so one fine day, both of them were coming to college and he tried to brush his fingers against her breasts, she ignored it thinking it was a mistake but this man did the same thing, the very next day. She took a stand and the moment she reached college she told her best friend, she in return took her to the principal. The principal there and then called the police and that man was taken to the jail. All this took place and we thought that the case was closed but the bank people gave the guy bail and pressurised her to take back the FIR. What’s worse is that the girl was shamed all across the college, teachers started saying “why did the girl go with that man? what was the need?” Nobody thought of her mental state or her family issues or why she was dependent on that man. Everybody were hell bent on defining her character, slut-shaming her. It’s just sad to see that even in studying in one of the best universities this is still the situation. With the help of haiyya we just hope to cut down on the sexual stigma, slut shaming, body-shaming and all sorts of shaming a woman goes through. Because she is more than this and definitely more than what you think she is.